SEXUAL ALIENATION

Men take viagra to encourage and improve sexual performance. A doctor prescribes fitness-training as a cure for obesity. A therapist prescribes meditation or Tai Chi to improve job-performance and reduce stress. A dictator tightens his hold by propagandizing against his enemies; and if that doesn't do the trick, he subdues or even eliminates them.
Really, a modern society can provide solutions for most any problem. But some problems remain unresolved because nobody wants to risk talking pro-actively about them. It will open a Pandora's Box of uncensored analysis that will step on toes and cause a lot of embarrassment. Try to analyze the situation and you will find yourself wandering through thick, propagandistic smoke, that conceals the psychology of the problem—the incendiary source.
For instance, our society has never solved the problem of how to make social relations between boys and girls in school less problematic. Just think about the content of the TV evening-news that Americans listen to the news every night. Experience has inured grown-ups to the fear-mongering that characterizes it. But kids have not developed a thick skin or cynicism to protect themselves. Growing up in an environment over-sensitized by sexual infractions, boys and girls go through school hating each other.

Again, that no one talks openly about sexual-alienation suggests that too much analysis will expose the psycho-dynamics of it, and the organized intentionality of political forces. If you sew suspicion and mistrust among boys and girls, they will avoid each other. Bad influences will flow in to fill the vacuum.

George Orwell, in his novel 1984, writes about a futuristic society that takes sexual alienation to its logical conclusion. He chronicles an "illegal" sexual relationship between low-ranking members of the ruling Party, Winston and Julia. By meeting clandestinely, they anger their superiors who have a policy of keeping the sexes alienated.

Julia basically seduces the timid Winston, the alienated ex-husband of the true-believer Katherine. Winston hates his ex-wife and falls head-over-heels for the young, attractive Julia.

Julia describes sexual alienation as something institutional. Her analysis gives me the creeps:

With Julia, everything came back to her own sexuality. . . . (S)he had grasped the inner-meaning
of the Party's sexual puritanism. It was not merely that sex created a world of its own, which was
outside the Party's control. . . . (S)exual privation induced hysteria, which was desirable because
it could be transformed into war fever and leader worship. . . .
"When you make love, you're using up energy. . . . (Y)ou feel happy and don't give a damn for
anything. They can't bear for you to feel like that. They want you to be bursting with energy all
the time. All this marching up and down and cheering and waving flags is just sex gone sour."

"All this marching" also indicates that an individual's significance has gone sour. He has subsumed  his individuality into the intentions of a mass-movement, a pet-peeve of longshoreman-philosopher Eric Hoffer, who also wrote about "marching up and down."

The prominence of marching in modern American society bothers me, but I grew up with kids who paid little attention to politics or social issues. They never considered participating in a march or campaigning for a political candidate. In fact, they looked down on the kids who did do those things. But social relations among high school and college students were as problematic in my crowd as they are today. So sexual alienation goes deeper than simply marching and politicking. My crowd enjoyed plenty of play-time and freedom from supervision.

Maybe the answer involves the root intentions of boys and girls. Boys don't conceal their feelings very well. They want girls for sex; but I don't think girls want boys for sex. They want boys for strength. They don't even want boys who will listen to them pour our their heartfelt feelings. They want boys with attitude who bristle with assertiveness and aggressive gripes, thereby filling an ego-void in the girls and taking them out of themselves.

I remember dates with girls who looked like they wanted to leave as soon as they were alone with me. Antsy and disdainful, I really had no idea what they wanted, other than repel a bunch of nosy, intrusive boys who made them nervous. I believe that if they could speak honestly, they would say, "If you don't fill up this space, I'm outa here!"

I grew up with a typical WASP mother who taught me to be a good listener and thoughtful of girls' feelings. No meant no! She taught me to empathize with girls and to intuit their hopes and feelings.  Boy, was she wrong! Most girls I tried that trip on just brushed me off disdainfully.

I don't think that any other race on the planet has the level of sexual alienation that young Whites have; and they have to deal with it in a ridiculously over-sexualized media-environment. It's high time we do something about it. We need to determine what forces are at work to alienate the sexes, or at least do something about the sexualized media. Until that happens young Whites have no idea how to conduct relations with each other.